2014 is really shaping up…

Oh how I cannot wait to catch up on everyone’s lives since I’ve been offline. It’s been a crazy couple of weeks – first there was Jamaica, which was amazing. In fact, I’m going back in a few weeks. Then there were major changes with work, mainly that I resigned on Monday and accepted a job offer with my previous employer.

Actually, I accepted the job offer first and then resigned, because I’m not brave enough to just resign without something else to go to.

Just before I left for Jamaica in February my employer re-structured my Department to better efficiently use all of our respective skills. At first I was happy with the change, but while in Jamaica, and having a lot of time to think, I realized that this new job structure was probably not going to work out for me. Not because I’m not capable of doing it, and doing it well, but actually because I could see myself getting bored with it really fast.

I’m the type of person that thrives when I feel like I’m accomplishing something, or working towards a goal. This new job was not going to allow me that – it is more task based, as opposed to project based. So when I got back from Jamaica I decided to start looking to see what jobs were out there, and in the meantime I updated my resumé and portfolio.

While updating my portfolio with accomplishments from my current job and my prior job, I realized very quickly that the accomplishments I was most proud of (and where I made the most impact) was with the previous job. I also came to realize that although the pay was shit (I started right out of college and was promoted numerous times but it was always a bit here, and a bit there….) I got a ton of great experience.

So I called my old boss and asked whether he wanted to meet for coffee. I also wanted to see the new building he had purchased and is in the process of renovating. Once he took me on the grand tour and we sat down for coffee and caught up, he started talking about how he was restructuring and looking for Senior Product Managers to come on board – long story short, he sent me the job offer the next day, we went back and forth in negotiations over the week, and I accepted the offer on Friday evening.

This will be a big promotion for me, and one that I’m very excited for. In fact, I’ve already started re-subscribing to all the trade magazines I used to read, and have started doing research on different aspects of the industry so I can be somewhat back up to speed. The salary bump was significant (best decision I ever made was to leave and then go back for almost double the salary!) and I will get my own office once the new building is renovated. It will mean responsibility, and a lot of work, but it’s something that I’m really looking forward to jumping into again.

My old/new boss have been emailing back and forth quite a bit since I accepted – my first job will be to launch a social media campaign for one of the brands I’ll be managing. Exciting! I’ve always wanted to get experience in the social media setting and this is the perfect opportunity to top up my resumé with digital experience.

The new job does mean a long commute though, literally across the city of Toronto. It also means that I’ll likely be moving closer to work, and further away from A (when he does come back to Canada). That whole thing though – do we live together, where is he going to work, etc – is all up in the air. As much as I’d love to predict what will happen, there are too many unknown variables. Things are going well between us though!

I feel like I’m trying to pack a lot of things into one post, so I will stop here….and pick up another day!


New year!

Obviously I’m a little behind. With the holidays and getting ready for Jamaica things have been kinda crazy in my life.

While I’m not one to make resolutions, I have been thinking about some things I want to accomplish this year:

The first is I need to get my financial life in order. After the separation there were unexpected bills that put me in debt – that I am still paying off, even as of last week! I want to pay off the little bit of debt I have and start saving. By the end of the year I want to be in a place where I can breathe comfortably and sleep well at night. This is my biggest goal.

I want to finalize the divorce. I want that part of my life over and done with.

I want to continue to nurture and grow the new relationships I have made since the separation  – I think this is important given the above. If I am to really start over and have that part of my life closed, I unfortunately need to let go of some people, especially those with close ties to my ex.

I want to start preparing my body for a child. I need to get off one of the medications I’m on, and start taking folic acid every day. This seems so easy, but I haven’t been able to do it consistently yet!

As far as where A and I will end up, that’s not something I can speculate on. I am hopeful. I’ve also learned though that people and life can throw you curveballs! I’m planning for the future but keeping my eyes open.


One, Two, Three

Oh how it’s been a minute.

Work has been insane. Once I get home my brain is exhausted and all I can focus on doing is having the obligatory “puppy time” and then relaxing on the couch until bed (which has been early most nights too!)

Today though I am under control and have been super productive. I actually don’t know what has gotten into me, but no matter.

I have something to say about 2 lipsticks, and even though this is not a beauty blog I don’t care because I need to get this off my chest. That will come. Also an update on A and life in general.

Now see how hectic things have been? I almost forgot to mention that the flight is booked to Jamaica, I officially leave on the 29th of January. This is probably the most interesting thing that has happened to me in a long time and I almost forgot about it!


The Versatile Blogger Award

I was quite surprised to find out that I had been given an award from the lovely amediablogger! This beautiful lady is one of the first bloggers I started following and I always look forward to her updates – they are sometimes funny, sometimes poignant, sometimes thoughtful, and always interesting. Thank you so much!


These are the rules for The Versatile Blogger Award –

  • Display the award certificate on your blog
  • Announce your win with a post and thank the blogger who nominated you
  • Present 15 deserving bloggers with the award
  • Link your nominees in the post and let them know about their nomination with a comment
  • Post 7 interesting things about yourself

I love posts like this because I get to see what other interesting blogs people are reading, so here’s my list of 15 (in no particular order!):

1. Smug Singleton

2. Sex & The Cincy

3. The Unfortunate Male Virgin

4. Elle Decides To Have Sex

5. Things My Ex Said

6. Valley Girl Gone Country

7. Pregnancy Patience and Me

8. Holding The Baby

9. Finding Mr. Wrong

10. Hold The Condiments, Please

11. Dating Dramas Of A Thirty Something

12. Being A Beautiful Mess

13. The People I Have Slept With

14. Flux and Flow

15. Veronika’s Blushing


Here are 7 random (and possibly interesting) things about me:

1. I drink more than I should

2. I am addicted to coffee – if I don’t have it my mid-day I start to get a headache

3. I nearly puked on my wedding day from nerves (was probably a sign!)

4. I used to consider myself a cat person

5. I have generalized anxiety and am on anti-depressants (but thriving!)

6. I was diagnosed with epilepsy at age 21, it is managed

7. My native language is English, I am semi-fluent in French, and I can swear in Jamaican


Cast of Characters

Below is a quick “cast of characters” of the main men in my life, the raisin d'être for this blog:

Mr. Dreads: My current man. A beautiful man originally from Zimbabwe. We met through Plenty of Fish January 2013 and hit it off. After only a few weeks we were commenting on how we felt like we had known each other for much longer.

Mr. Spice: The first man I slept with/dated after my husband. Originally from Grenada, has a child with a Canadian woman. We sometimes work together and we have tried to maintain a friendship but the relationship is often volatile and dysfunctional. We can't seem to stay away from each other.

Mr. Rasta: Originally from Antigua. Rastafarian. Very sweet man, just friends. He asked for my number, I gave it to him, we have talked since.

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Hello World.

First post!

I decided to start this blog because I maintained a blog for 6 years when I was younger, only stopping as I graduated from college. I miss the perspective blogging used to give me!

And for sure perspective is something I could really use right now…

A few things about me:

–       I am 29 years old

–       I separated from my husband July 2012 (almost 1 year!)

–       I have 2 dogs who are a big part of my life

–       I have a good job that I love

Those are the highlights, certainly more will emerge as I begin to write.