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Finally, the end of Winter 2014?

Maybe I’m being presumptuous in wanting to bust out my sandals, but I feel like Winter is finally waning. I won’t be sad to see it go, as it really was a bunch of bullshit this year. The ice storm was cool until I lost power and I love that we got so much snow (only because 1. I have 4WD that makes driving in snow actually fun, and 2. I live in an apartment so I don’t have to shovel any driveway), but I hate when the snow melts and all the garbage and dog poop starts to show, and the freezing cold weather made a quick trip outside miserable. I think it was the bitter cold that pissed me off the most about this winter, I would have punched winter if I could have, right in it’s ugly bitch face.

(On a side note though, why do people insist on not cleaning up their dog’s poop? It’s gross. Yes, it’s not exactly pleasant picking it up either, but seriously people, pick up after your dog or don’t have one. Assholes.)

However, despite Winter being a bitch most of the time, I did manage to have a lot of fun with the dogs, as seen below:

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Jamaica 2014 (Trip #1)

WARNING: Image intensive!

My Jamaica trip was over a month ago, and I took a ton of pictures. Below are the best of the bunch, and I hope I captured some of the beauty of the island.

It was definitely an adventure, for many reasons. One, I seem to have fallen in love. Two, it was so much more interesting seeing the interior, away from the pretty resorts. Yes, there is a lot of poverty, but people make do with what they have fairly well. I had a blast hanging out with A for a full 10 days straight. The sex was amazing as usual. His family and friends are great – and I was able to swim in the ocean for the first time in years!

This is my favourite image, it captures the beautiful mountains. We did a lot of driving within the middle of the island, through the mountains. The roads can be treacherous but the views can also be breathtaking:

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Every house is painted in it’s own creative colour/designs – it makes for a really colourful landscape:

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This is view of the ocean on the way to visit A’s uncle’s house (under construction). We got a bit lost and had to ask for directions:

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One of my favourite moments was in Montego Bay at Pier 1 – after a day at the beach we came here for dinner:

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A’s mother’s dog – adorable! We became good friends:

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Sunset on the first night there:

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A panoramic view outside of A’s house:

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A’s neighbour’s house – this guy lives alone but in the early morning hours he will start yelling at a woman who isn’t really there. Very bizarre:

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A “tyre” shop, these are everywhere:

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A bar on the side of the road – these are also everywhere:

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A banana shop – there is no shortage of fruit:

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Sunset from down the road outside of A’s house:

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A’s house is the one in the center:

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One of the first places we went was Mystic Mountain just outside of Montego Bay:

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On the way to Mystic Mountain we passed this “Duppy” (Ghost) Church. It’s actually called that on Google Maps. The story goes that the congregation was being harassed by ghosts so they abandoned the church and moved to another one down the road somewhere. The church now sits abandoned and most locals won’t go near it. I, of course, had to explore it. It took me a week to convince A to take me back there. He stayed well outside and refused to enter the grounds, so I explored by myself!

p.s. I am not haunted from the experience and I was not harassed by ghosts:

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One of the best days was when we went to YS Falls – these are natural falls that you can swim in. Aside from being beautiful it was so refreshing:

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Finally, some randomness! I was happy to find Heineken, but Red Stripe isn’t so bad either:

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Relaxing on the veranda at A’s:

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Montego Bay beach (more for locals than tourists):

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A guy on stilts:

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Hope you enjoyed!

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Life is good.

It really is. I don’t have many complaints at the moment, though it would be great to have more money coming in. The most stressful part of being separated has been going from two incomes to one, while maintaining the same lifestyle. I’m on an actual budget so I can get the finances under control as well as be able to afford that trip to Jamaica next year.

Speaking of Jamaica, A and I are doing really well and I fall for him a little more each time I see him. There are so many things I just love about this man, such as:

– He is a good man, right down to the small things like opening doors and carrying the heavy items
– He is extremely close to his mother (you can judge a man by how he treats his mother)
– He always smells fantastic
– He will make an excellent father and provider
– I feel safe around him
– My family likes him (and my mother has proposed a family bowling night before he leaves)
– His body is exactly my preference
– The sex is fantastic
– He’s a good influence on me! I sleep more, drink less, and eat better around him

Enough of that mushy love stuff, I’m still learning to be comfortable with it, baby steps please!

 

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Meeting the Parents

(Well, at least one parent anyway)

I had invited A over to my mother’s house for Thanksgiving dinner, as another way of acclimating him to Canadian traditions and also because I want to spend as much time with him as possible and I want to show him off to…well, everyone.

I picked him up in the afternoon on Monday and we headed to my mom’s house. He didn’t seem to be nervous but as we got closer to our destination I started to feel nervous. I’ve never actually had that happen before when bringing a man to meet my family so I’m not sure what was going on. I suppose I just really care what my mom thinks and I want her to like him because I like him so much.

Only my sister and her boyfriend were there when we arrived so it was a nice way to ease him into the craziness that can be my family (it’s all a good crazy though). I have 2 sisters and 3 brothers, and most of us have significant others that accompany us to family functions. Then there is also my aunt and her boyfriend and my cousin and her boyfriend, and usually 6 dogs total – so yeah, things can be rather hectic.

The night went very well, and A made a good impression on everyone. Afterwards he said he thought that he was going to feel uncomfortable, but actually he felt very comfortable. That’s always a good sign. My mother said she really likes him, that he is quiet and seems very nice. My stepfather thought he was very pleasant.

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I think my mother noticed (as mothers usually do) how happy I am around A, and is making an effort to get everyone together one more time before he leaves to go bowling.

In other news, I was challenged by A to make Jamaican Patties, and I think I succeeded. It may have taken hours (it’s not the easiest thing in the world to make and it was the first time) but they came out really good. Except that the first batch stuck to the bottom of the pan and most of them broke apart….but I have more in the freezer that I can pop in anytime! And yes, I’m proud to say that these are 100% made from scratch (even the shells!)

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“Are you in love?”

This is what my mother asked me over the weekend.

I said “No, of course not, it’s too soon.”

But then yesterday I found myself looking at rings online. What the fuck? Way too soon for that.

A is meeting my mother’s side of the family on Monday for Thanksgiving. It should be interesting. I hope she likes him, but I’m pretty sure she will. I think my dad will also like him but we’re going to leave that meeting for when A is back in Canada next year.

Did I mention I’m planning on going to Jamaica in February to visit A? It’s also an opportunity to see his family and make sure everything is on the up-and-up. You never know….I’ve learned that lesson a few times over now.

I am cautiously optimistic about this one – I can see myself settling down with him but at the same time I’m watching for things out of the ordinary. I don’t want to get hurt again.

These are the things that go through my head that I would normally never admit to anyone – but what’s the point of having a blog if not to admit even the most ridiculous thoughts?

Oh, I should also mention that I’ve started the paperwork for the divorce order, and expect to be officially single as of the end of the year. Happy New Year I guess!

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There’s a lot of “like” around here these days

You know I’m in serious like with someone when I bake them cookies.

A got home late last night from work after a long day. I asked him half-jokingly whether he wanted me to make him cookies. He said yes. I made chocolate chip cookies and then dropped them off at his place.

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I think I’m in trouble!

I never updated about our trip to Niagara Falls this weekend – it is part of the “things to do in Canada” list that can now be crossed off. We had a lot of fun and took a lot of pictures. At one point we were holding hands and it felt good. I swear I’m not usually like this, I don’t know what this man does to me. I usually shun lovey-dovey stuff so this is quite a different side of myself. I’m not sure whether I like it – I don’t want to be one of those women (you know the kind I’m talking about!).

In other news, and with the exception of Mr. Basketball who has been MIA for weeks now, all the men on the side have now been told that I’m not available for anything romantic. I guess that really does make it official…