Ow my poor childless ears

I love Mr. Spice most of the time (I really, really do, even though we're currently on shaky ground). His daughter, however, is another story.

Before you go thinking that I'm some terrible child-hating bitch, let me explain. She's a very sweet 6-year-old little girl with a big heart. She will be a heartbreaker when she gets older, and I can guarantee she will be a handful for her parents. I'm not jealous of how much Mr. Spice loves her or anything ridiculous like that – in fact, I really love that he has no problem showing her how much he loves her. Despite all his flaws he is loving and caring father who would do anything for his daughter.

However – I can't take the noise. She screams, she yells, she never seems to be quiet. There is no such thing as silence when she's around. I can deal with noise but clearly I'm no good in dealing with a child who doesn't have an “indoor” voice EVER. Mr. Spice doesn't seem to really notice – maybe he's just used to it, but I've also considered that maybe this is just how kids are and I'm not cut out for it because if she was my child I would have sedatives on hand just to get silence every once in awhile.

Apparently not all kids are like this, I'm told by others who also don't have kids but at least have more exposure to kids than I do. I really really hope that is the case, otherwise I just don't think I can handle dealing with that kind of noise full-time without losing it.



Desperately Seeking Dad?

Here are the statistics from the National Fatherhood Initiative:

Percentage of children who live in father-absent homes:

  • African American: 64%
  • Hispanic: 34%
  • Caucasian: 25%

The national average is 1 out of every 3 children, or 33%, live without their biological father in the home.

Staggering numbers for the African American community. Yet, last night at the neighbourhood park with Mr. Spice and his daughter there were only fathers present. Not only that, but 5 out of the 6 fathers who had taken their children to the park were black.

I love when the odds are defied.

park July 13, 2013